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Would You Like To Meet Girls?
Guys question me about " relationships " and "how to become a PUA " and other such things frequently .
Nevertheless, honestly, the best answer for all of these kind of questions is "experience."
But by now you are saying "but how do I get experience when I don't know where to go or how to meet women?"
You do it by meeting women and approaching women any way you can in large droves. It is called serial dating. And when I published my first guide "How I Got 700 Dates In One Year" it caused a little controversy.
I guess I should clarify. I am not a cheater and don't believe in cheating. That is not what serial dating is about. Serial dating is about the times you are NOT in a relationship. It is about what you do in between relationships. It is about sanely selecting a spouse.
Now I would be the first one to concur that a person who "multiple"¯ or "serial"¯ dates with no intent of ever doing anything else would have at least some major "relating"¯ issues.
But, serial dating applied inside the right context is not only not dysfunctional, but it is quite the contrary. Serial dating done to get a better understanding of the opposite sex, so you can figure out who you are fond of, and what you like, and what kinds of folk like you, is about the most mentally healthy thing you can do.
What do you think most parents told their adolescent sons and daughters?
"Don't get too serious with one person. You need to meet and date different people.
Now believe it or not, this teenage advice can also be very good advice for adults.
First of all, most adults never followed their parent's suggestion and dated lots of people. Most people seem to have a pattern of hooking up with the first acceptable¯ person who shows them some real interest.
But bear in mind, there is a difference between "acceptable¯" and "ideal"¯ and also unfortunately most people normally continue this trend of connecting with the first "acceptable"¯ person who comes along well into maturity.
We call this "settling".
We call this "compromising".
We call this all sorts of names years later when we realize we aren't happy.
Most of us didn't realize when we were teenagers that there are all sorts of people in the world - different personalities, different likes and dislikes. We didn't realize that if we met enough people we actually could meet someone who was exactly right for us.
Most of us didn't even know our own character and what what would be a good match for us. We founded our ideas of what a good match was off of television and movies and magazines. You see most of us just lacked experience with the opposite sex.
But the cure for all of this is not very complex. You see, when you meet and date a lot of different people a natural learning process emerges. It is called experience. No matter how dumb you are, you figure it out sooner or later. Some people sooner. Some people later. You can learn about anything this way, and there is no better teacher.
And believe it or not, that is all us "dating gurus" have ever successfully done to meet women and attract women . We have just gone out there and got a lot of experience.
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